The very basic element before saving a relationship is to know if it is worth it in the first place. Are you still in love with each other? If you’ll both say yes to that question, then, what are you waiting for? Do something and save your relationship.
If there are doubt walls between the two of you, may it be for many reasons, just get rid of it. To make things work, you should meet halfway. You both have to agree on starting over again and just forget the reasons why your relationship went shaky in the first place. And you should believe that everything can be worked out in time.
The next element in saving a relationship is time. You relationship didn’t worsen overnight and so it wouldn’t be ironed out by just one night. You should be able to understand that it takes quite some time before something so delicate like two people’s intimate relationship to be fixed. And so the earlier you start repairing, the sooner it will go back to what it is before.
Teamwork is the key to the success of any relationship. Both parties should do their share. Being a team is very important in making your relationship work; after all it always takes two to tango, right? To do this you also need to view things in your partner’s perspective. However many people fail to realize how important teamwork is. When things start to get bad, they will then just think of themselves. If you will do the same then chances are your relationship would fall as well.
The best way to penetrate your partner’s thought and eventually sees things on his or her point of view is to sit down with your partner and ask what he or she think is going wrong. Never presume things and insist that you know what your partner has been thinking. It will only worsen the situation as you might be wrong after all.
Now, when it comes to inviting your partner for a talk, make sure to leave your pride behind. Never let it get in the way. Keep in mind that “pride goeth before the fall”. Make up your mind. Choose the one that is important for you; loose the one you love because of pride? Or do away with your pride to keep your relationship? If you choose the first option, then your relationship will certainly fall.
Then, during the actual conversation, setting up the ground rule is very vital. The first rule should be, let your partner express how he or she really feels about your relationship. Show him or her respect for you to get the same thing from him or her. Never interrupt when your partner is still talking. Patiently wait for your turn and stay focus on things that are relevant. Take down notes if necessary.
Be cool, calm and composed. Do not be annoyed or get mad easily at your partner when he or she is actually voicing out his or her sentiments and vice versa. Set aside the pride, the hurt, the pain and the anger first to make things work.
Whatever the issues and problems might be, rest assured that there will always be a solution for that. Do not leave things unsettled. For that will only build up and make things worse. Make appointments if you need to have more than one talk session and make sure to stick with the schedule. Anything not pleasant, when left behind can just fester like a splinter in your finger and the infection may really spread that fast, creating complications, leading the relationship on the edge of dying from sepsis or organ failure.
Saving a relationship is not very easy, right? But if both of you are willing to give time and effort to it, then nothing is difficult. You just have to be committed in doing what needs to be done and everything will follow. It will then be as simple as a combination of trust, love and respect so that your relationship will be a lot stronger than before.