16 Things To Know Before Dating Someone Who Is Good At Being Alone

1. Shes not going to trust you at first.

Shes going be wary of anyone new who enters her life because a lot of people have come and left.

2. She’s learned to only trust herself.

Relying on others in the past led to disappointment. She knows if she wants anything done right to rely on her doing it.

3. She doesnt need you in her life but she might want you to be there.

Shes learned to not need anyone and to be honest, thats one of the scariest things for a strong woman to learn. But even strong people need others sometimes.

4. She knows the only person she needs is herself.

Shes become her own best friend. Shes become her own best company. Shes become someone strong enough to stand alone and learn to like it.

5. Shell push you away at times.

She might think youre going leave so shell try and beat you to it. She might look for excuses for things to go wrong so she can go back to being alone. She might even give a million reasons to walk away. Dont.

6. Shes afraid of being vulnerable.

Shes afraid of someone seeing her weak. Shes afraid of someone getting to know her so well, suddenly she doesnt remember a life without them. Shes afraid of getting too comfortable with someone so she tries not to.

7. She probably dated a lot in the past.

She wont tell you about it for a while. But every story and every heartbreak would make you understand why she is wired the way she is. She doesnt want sympathy, she doesnt want pity but shes been through a lot that has made her guarded and rough around the edges.

8. Which taught her its best not to date at all.

Its not like she doesnt get asked out or people don’t ask for her number but she pushes a lot of people away. She rejects even more of them. When her friends ask her why shell make up some excuse but the truth is shes scared shitless of relationships. So if youve made it this far, proceed with caution. Dont push her in any way. Do everything at her pace.

9. Shes used to going places alone.

She never uses her plus ones at weddings. She is always the person going stag to events. She almost likes not having to answer to anyone or watch out for anyone but herself. Shes fiercely independent to a point where it might be a flaw.

10. So if she invites you somewhere take that seriously.

She doesnt call upon many people. So if shes suggesting you go somewhere with her just say yes. Her inviting you somewhere is her way of letting you in.

11. Shes gonna have a life beyond you.

Its gonna seem like she doesnt have time to date. Thats only because she made sure to make her life about something more than her relationship status.

12. She probably learned that making someone priority could end badly.

She has pity for the people who relationship hop and are never single. Maybe because she was like that once upon a time and learned never again.

13. When something goes wrong in her life dont take it personal if she shuts you out.

Shes used to dealing with things on her own. The aspect of emotionally relying on someone is foreign to her. Her strength is almost a flaw in a way. You want to get into her world even the bad parts but theres always gonna be walls and layers to her.

14. She’s just is afraid of relying on someone.

Its human to need people but she perceives that as weakness.

15. She seems kind of hard to love.

If I can let you in on a little secret the best people in life usually are.

16. But once you figure her out shell love you harder than anyone.

Shell change you in the best way possible redefining what you thought love could be and youll realize the best people to date are ones who usually don’t.

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